Please can I go?
Today was a really hectic day..Not only did we all have to be out of the door for 7am, the snow was still around... black ice was lurking and the kids had to be decked out with hats, gloves, snow boots and a change of shoes for school.
By the time I dropped off Rory at pre-school I could happily have gone back to bed - but I had said I would volunteer a bit this morning in Mac's classroom. Was impossible to get parked at school - loads of Police swarming too for a funeral. Very very sad....
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After the school volunteering I bumped into my babysitter's ex boyfriend who still works at school. Man, after a good 6 weeks you can see he is hurting so badly. What to say, what to ask, when you know he can't let go of her, misses her dreadfully, but she is moving on quite easily it seems. They were together for 5 years.. Longer than some marriages.....I don't think it helps that he is quite estranged from his family - I think my babysitter was his family as well as his lover, his girlfriend. He is struggling so much - but there is nothing you can say or do - it's sad.
Lots of errands, picking up prescriptions, groceries. I am down to make and take dinner for a teacher who just had a baby. I took Monday so wanted to pick up most of the ingredients today.
Normally, Friday is our night without activites.... but today after school it was back into school to help set up for the school fair (tomorrow). We finally got out of school at about 5pm..
...And then Bee declared that she was invited to a party tonight. I had received an evite for said party ( a boy in her class) - he had pretty much invited the whole class. I didn't even mention it to Bee as I thought a boy's party would be something she'd just blow off. But, boy oh boy was she keen to go.
Spoke to hubby who was umming and ahhing about whether she should go. My little girl is growing up - she asked me to iron a special pair of jeans.....she REALLY wanted to go and I suddenly found myself pleading HER case with hubby....In the end he said he'd take her but told ger to put something warmer (read less tight) on. He worries about his little girl and often it feels like I spend all my time trying to smooth things over with him and the kids....
But she went, had fun and luckily wasn't with the others storming about at night in the dark...
But tonight was another reminder that whilst I accept Bee is growing up, becoming a real young lady, she needs our help and support - not just the setting of rules. And I see more depressions in the future with how Bee copes... or rather how Hubby copes with Bee growing up.....
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Yes, I can understand it too. It's a tough line between shelter and protect isn't it. You have to let them live as well.
The first time I let my oldest go to a boy and girl dance was at his middle school last year. I had to rely on my friends who were chaperoning to keep a watchful eye. I needn't have worried though as he wasn't impressed. However, he has just started emailing with an old preschool pal of his who moved to Dallas some years ago. A long distance romance suits her mum and I just fine!!
yes, Bee has that going on with a boy who left for California this summer even though they are more just friends. They phone more than e mail though and the bill arrived.....and I just then realised how LONG they have been chatting each time.....
thanks for the e-card by the way - v funny, loved it!!